Team building lessons from Grand Parents


The 7-year old was deeply engrossed in drawing her version of num tum on the sheets of paper her granny had given her, oblivious to the hot weather and the sweat that was forming on her brow. Just then her granny’s cell phone was ringing loud. Granny thrust the phone into her grand-daughter’s hand and said ‘It’s your mom calling’. The girl looked at her granny and furiously replied, ‘No. I don’t want to talk to her’ and gave the phone back. Now the 7-year old girl was spending her summer holidays with her maternal grand-parents which was a night’s journey away from her home. But the mother felt so ‘daughter sick’  that she called umpteen times a day to check how her 7-year old was doing. But the little girl found this annoying and she ignored the calls most of the times and only talked to her mom when she had something interesting to say. Like the little chicks, that her grandpa brought her, did during the day? Did those chicks eat well, did they grow, where in the farm did they wander is what interested her to talk to her mom about. But this same 7-year old talked for hours to her grand parents about her drawings, her school, her friends and her play mates on long distance calls. Not that she was averse to phone but there was something that caused her to rebel her parents.

What is this special bonding the grand children have with their grand parents. Why don’t the children have this bonding with their parents?
Or why do kids generally rebel their parents and tend to do exact opposite of what their parents want?

For e.g., your parents rebelled their parents (or your grand-parents), and you rebelled your parents but liked your grand-parents
Now let’s represent this with a simple wave.

It seems that every alternate generation in a family bond with each other. You could expect that your kids to bond deeply with your parents too.

I see a similarity between this and work-life. The difference being that a generation in work-life (and that too in IT) is about 5-7 years. Have you had a boss/colleague, who is 5 years more experienced than you but you rebelled/hated him/her to the core. Now what about the awe and respect you have for the benevolent veteran employee who has 15 years more experience than you. That’s why you would find a Zuckerberg works well with a Sandberg but not with a Winklevoss.

Maybe having alternate generations working together in teams is a formula for success.
What do you think?

One response to “Team building lessons from Grand Parents”

  1. Yashaswini Anil says :

    I like the perspective. I read some of your articles and they are interesting. keep it on!

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